This week is a strange one. On the one hand we’ve been settling back into regular routines after the festive period. The Christmas tree has gone, the presents have been cleared away, the usual restrictions on screen time are back and we’re eating more mindfully again. Wood School started this week so our week is now back to it’s usual rhythm. However, it’s only going to last for this week.
After living with us for 5 months A will be going back to live with her Mum and brothers on Friday. It’s a happy time as her Mum is well enough for her to go home, and I’m very aware how much she needs to be with her Mum and how difficult it must have been to be apart. On the other side though, we have become a family of three and A has become part of our household and our daily lives. Jessy has had a constant playmate and I’ve had another child to love and take care of every day and her absence will be very much felt. We’re lucky that Wood School made a special allowance for her to go back for this week. At the end of last term her home going plans were only just being finalised and she didn’t have a chance to mark the end of her time at Wood School and say goodbye to her friends there. This week will give her that chance and hopefully make the transition a little smoother. I know A has loved Wood School and appreciated the freedom and fresh air and choice. Now she needs to prepare to return to the stricter confines of mainstream school which may be a little bit of a shock at first! Today was her last Circus skills session which I know she would have loved to continue, but sadly it doesn’t seem that will possible. She will be carrying on with Martial Arts and Scouts though and I’m glad she gets to keep a little of her routine and continue doing some of the activities she has enjoyed here.
I can tell that Jessy is preparing for A going home in his own way. He seems to be withdrawing a little and wanting time to play alone. It’s as if he knows that he needs to remember how to do that again and wants to get in a little practice! I’ve worried that he’s become so used to having a constant playmate that he may no longer enjoy playing alone, but it seems that he is able to go back to it which I’m glad about as I’d hate for him to feel lonely and bored. On Sunday we had a ‘Goodbye Get Together’ for A. She invited her Home Ed friends and we had a party buffet with her favourite foods. The kids spent quite a lot of time hanging out on the sofas in the living room seeming very grown up! They also spent plenty of time sliding down bannisters and jumping on the giant bean bag.
The adults all stayed in the kitchen close to the kettle and the food! I think I enjoyed the afternoon as much as the children did and it was nice to formally mark A leaving with something fun.
We all worked really hard to clear the house up in time for the weekend. As well as the Goodbye party I met my indpendent midwife on Saturday so we had a double excuse to clear up the Christmas chaos. I’ve realised how much clearer my head feels when I have a tidy living room. I’ve felt much calmer and have finally started getting things organised for the baby. The baby has been very cheeky this week. I’ve been able to see it move and it’s been doing some enormous kicks. However, every time the children have waited patiently trying to see or feel it, it doesn’t move! They have sung to it and shouted at it and shone lights and kept their hands on my belly all to no avail! Jessy finally saw it once last night but it’s still playing hide and seek with A! As it’s such a rare event, here is a photo of our tidy living room!:
A helped me out this week too by doing a big pile of washing up. It hurts my back to wash up at the moment and I can only manage a little at a time. A volunteered and at first I was a little nervous as I have very high standards when it comes to washing up! I can honestly say that everything was impeccably clean and I was very impressed and grateful.
When I picked the kids up from Wood School on Monday, Jessy was very keen to show me something he had created. There were a few children all surrounding a large sand pit where they had been making their own creations using natural materials. Jessy had created Pongoose Land and he talked me through the politics of the land explaining how the rich people were able to do what they liked and had the majority of the land, where as the poor people had one house to share and were forced to stay within certain boundaries. There was an airport, but only rich people were allowed to use the plane. I’ve been reading a book about Nelson Mandela and I talked to Jessy a little about apartheid and what it was like for Black South Africans during that time. It sounded to me as if he was processing that information with the game although I’m pretty sure this is a subconscious process rather than a choice.
A was given a lovely quill ink pen for Christmas and the same person bought her some parchment paper, wax seals and stamps so that she can write letters to stay in touch with people. She’s really enjoyed using it and has already written several letters including one to Jessy in the next room which she delivered by owl post using Jessy’s toy owl from Harry Potter Studios! We will certainly miss her creativity! This week marks the end of a chapter in all our lives and a moving on to the next one.