I’m sitting here wondering what to write. My last blog felt very full with activity and emotion. This has been one of those weeks where I don’t feel we’ve done much. On one day Jessy watched the entire series of Madoka Magicka, our favourite anime. At first I felt bad, but when I considered that it’s all in Japanese with English subtitles I figured it was actually very good for both his Japanese and his reading! Afterwards we went on Language Nut together and learned how to sing ‘Heads, Shoulders, Knees and Toes’ in Japanese, so I decided that the day was an intensive Japanese studies day! It’s lovely to see how confident Jessy is at sight reading in Japanese, it doesn’t phase him in the slightest. He can’t read the words out loud like I can but he learns to recognise the words as a whole.
Mostly Jessy’s been enjoying a relaxed pace doing his favourite things: reading, drawing, building dens, playing Minecraft, watching films and playing board games. In between he talks incessantly about Harry Potter until I feel as if my brain might melt! . He’s racing through ‘The Worst Witch’ series. The reading level is very easy for him which makes them a nice relaxing read but he also finds them entertaining. I’ve enjoyed watching his competence around the house in small ways. He now confidently cuts fruit, uses the toaster, helps himself to breakfast and simple lunches as well as drinks. He fixed our Hoover-bot which needed the old broken brush removing and a new one screwing in.
After last week I’m very happy to report that Jessy had a really happy last day at Wood School before the summer. They implemented the excellent suggestion of my friend, and Jessy was asked to choose 3 places which he would be happy to use as his special private place that he can go to if he feels the need. The teachers then said which was their preferred choice and luckily it was the same as Jessy’s. We took his wooden sudoku set to Wood School for him to play with in his special place. As it turned out he enjoyed playing with the sudoku but felt very settled all day and didn’t need to use his new place. I think we’re all hoping that just knowing it’s there will help him feel less anxious and therefore less likely to need it too often.
I’m going to try and stay positive that by putting our heads together we can find a way for Jessy to keep enjoying Wood School without taking up too much teacher time. After the worries of last week I finally made a decision to go to my GP and discuss my concerns about Jessy. I feel as if the difficulties he has are having an impact on his life, and that more knowledge, and potentially support, can only be a good thing. I like and respect my GP. He never jumps to conclusions, but he listens carefully and has a good balance between being matter-of-fact and caring. He believes I’m on the right track and agreed with me that a lot of Jessy’s difficulties are not what you would expect in a child his age. He’s made us a referral. There will be a couple of months or so to wait. I’m glad to have jumped that hurdle. (not that I actually can jump a hurdle – my legs are too short and stiff!)
It’s never completely plain sailing, there was a disappointing evening when Jessy missed his Martial Arts lesson. As Wood School had finished I hadn’t registered that it was a Monday and didn’t remember until about 4.30 that he had Martial Arts. By the time I reminded him it was too late, it wasn’t in his mental plan for the day and he got very upset when I tried to encourage him to go. His uncle said not to worry and he relaxed a lot after that, but agreed to make a deal to go next week. It was a good reminder to me to actually use the tools that help. We have a large wipe clean weekly wall planner but I need to remember to check it with him each morning so he knows the plans for the day. I made sure to remind him about cubs the evening before and at regular points through the day. Once he knows he’s doing something he is usually happy to do it (unless it’s something new!).
We had planned a beach trip for today, but the rain seems determined to come along whenever we have a beach plan, so we opted for a soft play area instead where Jessy ran around with a couple of his friends and I chatted to a couple of mine. We’ll aim for the beach another day!